The Mass Delusion Popping up in The Femdom/Findom Scene. (Part 1. tattoos, branding, tribute and claiming submissives.)

Today is going to be a fun and educational blog. I’m going back to My Educational Blogging Roots. hehe. This Blog series is kind of like My “Findom Done Wrong” series but a whole lot realer. No satire here, just the pure unfiltered opinion of a Lifestyle Domme. I’ve talked about dilution in the scene before, but this Series is on the DELUSION in the scene. Buckle up…. It’s going to be a fun one!

The delusion in the BDSM/Kink scene is getting realer and realer.... If you haven’t noticed this then you just might be a part of the delusion. So many people claim to be a part of the Lifestyle, yet they have done zero actual research into it. Too many people have seen how the mainstream media glamorizes and portrays the Kink World, and in the past few years, the media almost always presents it as something that it’s not. If you’re someone who thinks being a Dominant is about being mean, bratty, ruthless and making money by bankrupting losers, well then you are apart of the problem, whether you’re the Dominant or the sub. you can’t just wake up one day and claim to be a “pro-domme.” And no I’m gatekeeping, it’s no different than waking up and claiming you’re a doctor with zero education or medical training. It’s just not how life works. Not like this should have to be said, but subs are people and not inanimate objects who exist to be pilfered and destroyed for your own benefit. Shocking right? Anyways, I’m simply going to start this blog with some observations that I have made starting with the submissive side of things….

Here’s a great example of the delusion I’ve been talking about… There is no shortage of it… So, the other day this moron who has been a complete f*ck up and has never been able consistently serve Me, thought that by telling Me he would "get a tattoo with My Name" would impress make Me reconsider him as a sub. Just no. I’ve written about tattoos and brands before, and as you know tattoos and brands are a privilege that MUST be earned. Permanent body modification of any kind is a big deal. So, guess what? you don't get to skip a bunch of steps and permanently wear My Name. The last thing that I want is a sub who is a complete unworthy moron bearing My name. Also its completely irresponsible and disrespectful for the sub to do something so extreme without putting in the required work and commitment. (Tattoo fraud anyone? It’s like the sports morons who get championship tattoos with the year on it, before their team ever wins championship. And then their team loses. Talk about absolute morons.) A tattoo is supposed to be status symbol of a subs accomplishment, not what they hope to become. A tattoo is a symbol of all the hard work a sub has put in and all the time they have dedicated to serving Me at their highest capacity. I’ve said it once, and I’ll say it a million times… Privileges must be earned, and no, they will never be given. Goddess doesn’t give participation ribbons and I definitely don’t give out participation tattoos or brands. This is the Big Leagues after all. hehe

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It's honestly ridiculous how deluded subs have become. The only subs who will ever earn the privilege to permanently wear My name are the subs who have actually worked their asses off, and have made major sacrifices to earn the privilege…. you know the subs who are truly owned by Me. 100% True devotion to Goddess. (Oh and obviously I have to like you as a person and a sub too, and you need to be mentally stable and aware of the intense meaning and commitment behind a permanent mark/being owned.) And no, reaching the level of being owned is not going to happen overnight, it might not even happen after years. you can ask the moron who has been serving Me on and off since I started in the Scene. After years and years he still can’t get it right, and I still continue refuse to own him. To make it as simple to understand as possible, “collaring/ownership” should be taken as seriously as a marriage. you don’t want to propose and marry every person you vanilla date right? If you did, people would see that as a huge red flag. 🚩 So why do morons constantly want to be “owned” by every Domme that they talk to? Do you see how unstable and lazy that it makes you look? If a sub approaches and immediately begs Me to own them there is a 99.9% that I will ignore their message. Why? I don’t play pretend. A serious sub would never ask such a thing. I’ll retouch on this point later in the blog, you’ll see when we circle back. hehe

Anyways, if you haven’t figured this out yet… Randomly tattooing a Dommes name and claiming that She owns you isn’t a sign of “devotion” when you haven’t earned the privilege. It’s a violation, and extremely disrespectful if you do it without consent. So stop skipping ahead, it’s not cute. Imagine tattooing the name of a woman you went on one date with on your body. Do you think she would want to see you again? Or would she be creeped out and file a restraining order? Put on your thinking caps morons, this one is a real head scratcher isn’t it. What it is, if you haven’t figured it out yet, is it is 100% out of line and a completely MAJOR red flag. 🚩 Stop thinking you will ever be owned/allowed to tattoo a Dommes name just because you sent or served a Domme at one point. (you probably half assed it too. Do you ask your boss at work for an unreasonable promotion that you haven’t earned? Of course not, they would laugh at you all the way out of their office.) Talk about self entitlement. subs don’t get to be entitled. (Look, I don't care if you sent $1000's that doesn’t mean I want to own you. you are nothing more than a toy and a tool until I say differently.) At the end of the day, I never want losers associated with Me. Truly owning a sub is so time consuming, so no I don’t want 1000’s of owned subs. And no, I’m talking about fake owned… you know where you write My name on your body and post it to twitter for a thrill. lol how basic and stupid. 101 behavior does not impress Me.) When I talk about being owned, I’m talking about being completely owned and dominated… Where I become the main focus My subs life. If you’re walking around with My name on your body that means something. And if I give you the privilege of wearing My Name on your body, that means it’s also tattooed internally, deep inside your subby brain, into every single cell of your entire being. The physical tattoo is just the cherry on top. When you feel truly feel Purpose, that means that you earned it, it means you have accepted your place in life, and your Purpose. It means that Goddess is proud of you and all the sacrifices you’ve made. It means that you actually deserve to wear My Name proudly. It means that you passed all My tests, and overcame every challenge and push from Goddess that fell in front you. It means that you truly accepted your place in Goddess’s Life as My submissive. And guess what? It’s not an easy road to conquer, I’ll make it really hard on purpose. I want to push you, see how deep and how far you will go to earn a permanent place in My Life. So if you’re a hopeful sub of Mine you must always make sacrifices, truly prioritize Goddess, and always communicate and value communication as much as I do. Be My good boy, but remember being My good boy isn’t a walk in the park… Being My good boy isn’t something you turn off and on when times get hard. And being My good boys isn’t something you only do when you’re horny. No. Being a good boy isn’t a game, it’s your entire Purpose in life. And yes, sometimes there are some big challenges, and sometimes I make you face them to test you, and yes, I will judge you on how you tackle/overcome them if it all. I want to see how deep you will go for Me! And if you don’t go deep for Me?

Bye-bye.

All of My subs are a representation of Me, and guess what? That’s why only the best good boys get to truly serve Me… And only the very best get to wear My Name permanently. (And no that’s not many. And yes there is a way to work up to permanent branding but that’s in My other blog on Tattoo's and brands, go read that if you’re interested in learning more!)

So, here's some advice to the extremely deluded subs... Look maybe you didn’t understand how complex the BDSM community is. But that’s due to laziness and horniness. Put in some actual work. Think with your dumb dumb brain for once, and not your useless weenie. Regardless of your thoughts on D/s, if you’re the type who wants everything to be easy, and for things to always go your way just because you “tribute….” Here’s My advice, you don’t want a real Domme, instead go play with a "dress up domme." When you go play with a dressup domme it will always be easy to get fake "owned," you will constantly be “rewarded” with little to zero challenge as long as you “tribute,” and as a bonus on top that there’s a 99% chance that you will have reckless and even sometimes dangerous things done to you and your body and life. Dress up dommes don’t really care about consent as much as you care about actually submitting.

So, If you’re a sub who’s in a constant debt cycle, always domme hopping, deleting accounts, reopening accounts, blah, blah blah…. Maybe it’s time to take a hard look yourself and at the Dommes you’ve been serving…. Maybe then it will click in your stupid head why you always end up feeling empty and always craving more. you never really experience true power exchange. How sad for you.

Guess what dumb dumbs? D/s relationships are not supposed to be destructive and based on ruination. A D/s relationship is something that is supposed cause growth between the two individuals. There’s a real issue, if only one person in the relationship is “growing” and improving, while the other is becoming more and more miserable. I mean, it should be pretty obvious that it’s a problem… Anyways, I’ll leave that at that.

So, who’s at fault when a D/s relationships isn’t actually a D/s relationship? Well, let Me put it this way, idiots deserve idiots…. And it takes two to tango. If you’re lazy and want to order and “have everything your way” like it’s a Burger King… Guess what? you’re in the wrong “Lifestyle.” But what about Goddess? Well, I’m NOT an idiot, and I’m definitely not lazy…. Oh and I’m definitely not playing dress up either. Look at how far I’ve grown My Empire, and have come into My Own, and guess what? Its not from just sitting around and winging it. I was mentored, I’ve had many D/s relationships, and no not all ended well, but I grew, Self reflected, made changes, and improved Myself and grew as a Domme and Person after each one. I just keep getting better and better! Honestly, here’s your wake up call morons, if you don't put in the work to impress and serve Me, you just won't be in My Life. I don’t spend time working on subs with no obvious potential. I also don’t cater to subs. I don’t care how much your spend. It’s gross when it’s not My Pleasure being prioritized. If you’re an utter failure, I might however, use and discard you when I discover how useless you actually are. I mean I at least deserve something out of the miserable interaction and experience. hehe

Moving on, but staying on the topic of delusion… Another thing to clear up quickly… A tribute is not a transaction, yes, I’ve said this before in other Blogs, but it needs to be said again. A tribute is a token of admiration and appreciation, a tribute is not something that a sub can bargain with. If you send Goddess a tribute, you are not entitled to receive anything in return. A tribute is NOT, payment for a session, d**k ratings, it’s not a payment sent to initially message a Goddess, payment for any kind of Goddess pics, a tribute isn’t payment for exposure…. Blah, blah, blah. Let’s make this crystal clear, a tribute is not payment for services of any kind…. So no, a tribute is not a form or leverage or a bargaining chip. If a Domme decides to give you attention after you tribute, be grateful and realize what a privilege it is. Got it? Good?

One last thing on the sub side of things, D/s dynamics are about power exchange, that’s what truly makes them thrilling and exciting. Without power exchange there is no D/s dynamic. So subs, the priority in a D/s relationship is never going to be about what you want. If it’s always about what you want and getting what you want where is the power exchange?

“D/s 101: When you are serving your Dominant you always prioritize Their Pleasure. A sub feels pleasure providing whatever their Dominant desires. A sub feels amazing and euphoric by giving and adding to their Dominants life.”

And no, this doesn’t just mean by monetary means. This is as a whole, mind, body, wallet, ect. your goal as a submissive is to please your Dominant. As a submissive you want to prove yourself worthy of being in your Dominants life and staying in it for the long term. your goal should never be about you or your orgasm or about what you want. ”But Goddess I sent this $______ shouldn’t I get to cum?” No. you shouldn’t because it was never about that. you shouldn’t send with that motivation. your motivation should be your Dominants Pleasure. you should be feeling immense tantric pleasure pleasing your Superior. If your Goddess permits an orgasm, that’s a different story, that’s a privilege that maybe you earned, maybe it’s a training tool, whatever. Earned orgasms are amazing and absolutely indescribable. If you’ve experienced one before you don’t need Me to tell you that. hehe Regardless of the reason why, any time your Goddess grants you permission to release, you should be grateful, never take it for granted and it should feel even more amazing because you earned it. If you don’t know the difference between and earned released and one that you haven’t earned, I feel bad for you and the empty life that you’re living without Purpose.

Next, this is just something that gives Me the ick. So to the newbie dommes who are reading this and the subs that find themself doing this over and over... To the domme… It must be extremely embarrassing for you to make a sub put your name in their bio as "owned" or whatever after a day, a week, or a month of "serving you" only to have that sub serving and even paying multiple Dommes who aren't you... Do you know how many times Goddess______b*tch has sent Me tribute? Too many times to count. When you tell a sub to instantly put your name in their bio or username, it’s a sign of insecurity and inexperience. you look like a dog trying to mark their territory. Especially when its a 100% online sub you look ridiculous. It’s unnecessary, and embarrassing for you when that sub is whoring around, if a sub is truly devoted to you, you don’t need to tell whole World, a sincere sub would never want to do that in the first place. If you didn’t already know, a sub isn’t 100% devoted to you after a day, a week, a month and even sometimes years. I Personally don’t even follow any of My subs back on Twitter or any other social sites. I have no interest in announcing who I play with to the World. I’m secure with each and every one of My bags. hehe. So instantly having multiple subs with your name in their bio it doesn’t make you look “successful.” It makes you look green. No successful Domme wants to hoard subs, it’s about quality not quantity. Successful is a vibe and an energy. Success is being a Naturally Secure and Dominant Goddess who commands a room and gets what She deserves without having to put on a constant show.

And finally, to the subs with a constant turnover of Goddess_____b*tch in their bio who whore around, guess what, nobody takes you seriously, and you will be used like the community hoe that you are. you might have someone’s name in your bio but it’s 100% obvious that you’re nothing but a community hoe doing whatever they can for their own pleasure… That’s why you have a new name in your bio almost weekly. If you enjoy the hoe life, continue to hoe, We Dommes see you. We won’t own you, but we will pray on your weaknesses. At the end of the day if a hoe sub does ever does truly want to serve a True Goddess and change their hoe ways, it’s going to be a long road, because no true Goddess is ever going to take you seriously. Stupid actions always have stupid consequences.

So like I said earlier, delusion goes both ways. Slapping your name on random subs, and garbage subs, who will change out their “dommes“ name in their bio bi-weekly or consider (or pretend to want to) permanently altering their body on a whim, gross. Remember Dominants, your subs are a representation of you, do you want a sub you claim to own, paying and being used by everyone and having basically nothing to give you? Think about it. But honestly you deserve each other… LOL Lazy people who don't put in the work to respect and live the Lifestyle are going to learn really quickly how dumb they look. 🤡 🤡 🤡

Goddess’s suggestion on the secret to successful D/s? If you are the D or the s, do some research, pick up a book and read, or look at how Lifestyle Dominants Live their fabulous lives without the drama. Stop telling yourself that there are “no rules” in BDSM and the Femdom Lifestyle, you’re only lying to yourself. There is a BDSM code for a reason. And I suggest you start with RACK And SSC.

So, subs, new dommes, and others… Hopefully you learned something reading this blog, or listening to it if you’re subbed to My LF. And yes all of My Audio Blogs moving forward will only be available to My loyal subscribers on LF. So if you aren’t subscribed yet use My Link and sign up if you don’t have an account, and if you do already have an account, what are you’re waiting for? I think My Blogs are super hot when they’re read by Me, but let’s be honest they are hot either way. hehe

Anyways, it’s time to get back to My extremely lucrative and relaxing night.

Until Next Time

Goddess Liv