Growing With your Domme. (Basic Blog #37)

To start this blog off, to put it simply if you don’t grow with Me, you won’t stay with Me. Goddess has no interest in dealing with subs who are difficult and also has no interest in those who refuse to acknowledge their wrong doings and flaws. A D/s relationship is supposed be beautiful and life changing. But you can’t change your life, if you aren’t open to learning, are someone who refuses to let down you guard, acknowledge your flaws, or kill your old bad habits. Maybe it’s all of the above!

D/s relationships are supposed to be transformational, with the right Domme your life will change forever, and for the better. Every sub needs their Domme’s guidance and approval to thrive, to grow and to become the best sub and human that they can be. But this will NEVER happen if you’re stuck in your old ways, and if you constantly hide behind your excuses. Oh, and self destructive behavior whenever things aren’t going your way, or if things are just going too well, won’t fly either. I don’t know why so many subs are self-sabotagers, but I’m over it. It’s extremely toxic behavior and NO Goddess deserves any level of toxicity in Her Amazing Life. Plus, At the end of the day a Domme can only truly Domme those who are willing. submission is a gift, and submission should never be forced in a non-consensual manner. So don’t expect Goddess to chase you down, it’s not worth it. Goddess doesn’t have the time or energy to lecture and correct every sub who has constant conflict, if I did, I would have zero time left in My day. No thanks, My days are about My Pleasure not your constant annoying issues.

In order to grow within a D/s relationship, a sub needs to have trust in their Domme, and the Domme also needs to have trust in Her sub. It’s a two way street. Apprehension will get you nowhere. The most important thing is to stop thinking about what’s normal. For the 10000000000th time, there is no such thing. (Read My older blog that covers this subject “Being A sub And The Fear of Fitting Into Normal Society.” It’s the #1 hurdle for almost every sub. Which is sad, because normal is just a social construct, created by society, and a bullshit one at that. It doesn’t exist. If spending your life trying to be “normal,” is making you miserable, it’s clear that something needs to change. Nobody deserves misery. (Unless it’s the hot kindcthat you desire from your Goddess of course.) Yet, for a lot of you, you still choose real misery, all because of societal pressures, and Goddess refuses to live in misery. I live in My World, a World where I make the rules, and I love it. And you too could live inside this wonderful bubble along with Me too if you decide to choose self-acceptance and Purpose. But if you keep making the wrong choices over and over, you will ultimately end up alone and no longer be a part of Goddess’s World or Life…. Either stop letting your thoughts get in the way, or go away.

All of Goddess’s D/s relationships and even friendships are built around trust and open communication. If a sub says they are going to do something., I expect them to do it. If a sub says they are going message Me tomorrow, I expect them to do it. Why wouldn’t they? And if they don’t? Well that depends on the level of our relationship. A sub who is uc (under consideration) and is new to Goddess’s life, will more than likely just be dropped. Maybe if I’m feeling generous I’ll give them a second chance, but it’s unlikely. (Look up My Blog on the “sub cycle” to read more on this subject, I’ve been to generous with links already.) Goddess has zero tolerance for flakey ass subs, especially in the beginning when you should be on your best behavior and trying to impress Me! With all the subs who approach Me daily, I really don’t have the time or energy to chase down someone who acts like an asshole straight up, when there are more subs who are actually prioritizing My pleasure and trying to please Me. those are the subs who will get My Attention.

Growing with your Domme is crucial, without growth within your D/s relationship it will fail. Growth is impossible if you don’t know how to accept yourself and your place in life, and of course just knowing how to be selfless. Learn how to drop your ego, just shut up and listen to Goddess, maybe you’ll actually learn something that way. Stop looking for arguments to find an easy way out, especially if you’re having a bad day, it’s so childish. Growth is impossible if you never emotionally grow up and learn how to actually commit. Go ahead and run into the arms of an “easier” domme, I dare you. LOL Guess what? The grass isn’t greener, especially when the other grass isn’t Me. It’s hilarious when you idiots actually figure that out and it’s too late…. Sometimes, theres a solution… Multiple apologies, more like debtolgies, am I right? LOOOL. Anyways. Not listening to Goddess will always be your downfall. Not communicating is your downfall. Omg, it’s like these are basic life skills that half of you dumb-dumbs forget when you start thinking with your stupid dick, or when you let your thoughts get in the way. Another major crutch is letting irrational fears get in the way. All of these listed things will prevent true happiness. Duhhhh.

For the lucky subs that I choose to pursue an actual structured D/s relationship with, I do emotionally get invested, a D/s relationship is still a relationship even if it’s “unconventional.” The subs who I am closest with, I care for deeply, and My subs feel the same way obvs. At times a D/s relationship can be extremely emotionally draining, and if the D/s relationship becomes too emotionally draining, Goddess will cut it off, or take a break from it, for the benefit of My Own mental health. Goddess is a true Domme, this isn’t My “job,” this isn’t a “hustle,” D/s is very important to Me and something I consider a necessary part of My Life. Without My subs, I wouldn’t be happy, part of My Life would be missing. But at the end of the day it’s about balance and when when the balance is off, it’s time to reassess what’s best for Me. you can go ahead and read the Blog subs on Failing to meet expectations and the Domme Disconnect here, you will never grow as a human or within the relationship if you still don’t understand the Innermost Workings of your Goddess. (Which you definitely do not.)

Anyways, I’m getting bored so I’m going to end this blog. The lesson of the day is growth is impossible if you refuse to change. growth=change. Yeah, it’s that simple. Don’t you feel like a stupid idiot now? Each and every step you take with your Domme can be so rewarding, each step is moving your life in a new direction. And when you overcome big steps, it is something that you and your Goddess can celebrate together which is super rewarding! Not to mention it will also intensify your growing bond. Moral of the story is, relationships need to grow in order to thrive!!! And friendly reminder to those of you who resist…. The longer you resist the harder you will cave. It’s pointless. LOL

Until Next Time,

Goddess Liv